I AM STAGGNANT, NO JOB, NO BUISNESS NO CAREER TO BUILD; See what marriage has turned me to!!!!!!!!

I AM STAGGNANT, NO JOB, NO BUISNESS
NO CAREER TO BUILD; See what marriage has turned me to!!!!!!!!

 

NO TRUST IN MY MARRIAGE
Marriage without trust is nothing because nothing good will not come out of it. My husband frustrated my life to leave the social media which I did but except whatsap, he destroys my phone and two of his phones because there is no trust. He save my friends number to know if I don’t store a man number with woman’s name, by doing this he started calling one of my friends trying to have a date with her but, only God knows if he have sex with her or not. I can’t say it all, but all of his attitude shows that he didn’t trust me. How can I make him believe I don’t have anything with my ex-boy friend Ayo after our introduction and wedding it’s really making me sick. WHAT CAN I DO?

On 26th of December 2016 he uttered a statement [sise sise ti ba ee] which is a curse. All because I shouted on him that he’s making me sick and crazy because of the issue of Ayo thinking am still in a relationship with him and this is because I told him the guy gave me some money during our wedding preparation also he sent a happy new month message to me and that is how he usually send it to all his contact so, I have to tell him to delete my number on his phone. Can he ever trust me? Have vowed several times for him to believe me that have never had sex with any man since he had made love to me yet he didn’t accept. He always act as if he wants our marriage to break up and always ask of our marriage certificate.
My husband went to their village and lied against me that I always ask him if any of their staff died will they pay the family up to 5Million.
On 1st of January 2017 I told him I want to go to our family house to celebrate the New Year he said no but I went because he wasn’t at home with us. When I came back he beat me up.
On 4th of January he gave me the children school fees to pay, I didn’t pay all I deducted #4,000 to buy some beverages for the kids because he didn’t respond for about 2-3 days that have been asking him, I believe if I explained to him he will understand because the money I deducted is for Inter-house sport and the money can still be paid if the activity is closer. When I told him he was very angry and slapped me 3times.
Am not sure he still love me because is altitude of raising his hand on me is constant he don’t always control his anger. The way am seeing my marriage now is like am in bondage. He wants me to be a full house wife and his not giving me all I wanted. Reason why I said am in bondage.
He collected the money he use to set up a business for me, thinking if I study the business for a year I will stop work and face it squarely because it was sales girl that was there. But due to lack of sales and a wrong location and insufficient food allowance we close down the shop and he collected #150,000 and #30,000 for our house help when she was going the total amount he collected was #180,000 naira from me. I told him I want to buy a land through my office co-operative he said no that I want to use the money from the shop to buy the land and if I did I won’t develop it of which the payment of the land will be an installment payment from my salary.

1. I got a teaching job after my resignation with VONO PRODUCTS he stopped me from doing it.

2. I said I want to go for fashion designing he said no.

3. I mentioned Catering he said no that is prostitution work.

4. I registered for SANDWICH course in LASU he said no, that we can’t spend up to 2years in our present apartment and we are moving out of Lagos so there is no how I can do the 5yrs course in 2016.

But I made him understand that am not telling him to pay for my fee that what am earning from my parents property can pay my fee.
Meanwhile he stopped me from studying at OLABISI ONOBANJO UNIVERSITY OGUN STATE in 2011 after have spent about fourty-five thousand on the admission. I regretted accepting his advice that if am pregnant that it won’t be easy travelling every weekend for lectures. Since 2011 all my effort to gain admission into the University was in vain. Am not sure he wants me to build a career.
I have a job before I know him but, marriage quit me from the job all because of our children [what a sacrifice]

AM STAGGNANT, NO JOB, NO BUISNESS
NO CAREER TO BUILD {WHAT A LIFE] See what marriage has turned me to!!!!!!!!!!!
CAN I BE A SUCCESSFUL WOMAN WITH HIM?
WILL I BE ABLE TO STAND OUT WITH MY FRIENDS THAT ARE FULL OF PARAMOUNT OF EXCELLENT?
WHAT WILL STAYING AT HOME AS A FULL HOUSE WIFE BENEFIT ME?
I NEED ABSOLUTE FREEDOM.

I believe 2017 will be my favourable year but now that I don’t have a job how I can’t take care of my personal responsibilities because I don’t want to depend on him for anything, when I asked for something he will complain and nag before giving me. Even for the children he will lament, it sadden my heart when I can’t lay offering at the church or provide my personal needs.

My husband he’s the type that his very secretive and don’t forgive and forget easily. He always raised the issue of Ayo saying I sees the guy almost every day that apart from this man I have about 8 man friends which is not true and that I will abandoned the children at home and go out for a long period of time. He’s wrong accusations about me are just too much that I can’t say it all. All these he told his family and mine to tarnish my image which makes me sad all day.

There was a day I went out to Magodo to see Mrs Adeoye in respect of our issues and misunderstanding, this woman is a mother and a mentor to me but, I didn’t inform my husband because she said I should not let him know that am coming because my husband as told her we will both come down to her place together. In a Nutshell on getting home that day he has took my kids to unknown place. Saying that I can’t take care of them properly. Things went wrong seriously that I can’t explain all. Over one week now i haven’t seen my two lovely boys and I don’t know where they are. Although, our family is aware of this issue and he has not bring them home. My family have call him he didn’t respond and have gone to meet his elder brother he said his not sure if it will be settled. Am alone at home, anytime he comes home I cried and plead to bring my children back but he couldn’t.
By Monday 17th of July if he didn’t bring them home what can I do?

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