Live Your Life Like A Girl Boss; Get Real About Real Goals!

Like a Boss Girls knows no matter what you want out of life – success, prosperity, love, happiness, serenity, a great job, a great mate, a great body – you can’t get there unless you know exactly where you’re headed.

Before embarking on any journey, it is absolutely essential you know where you want to go.  But in order to plot your course (and recognize it when you get there) you need to know exactly what this thing looks like and where it can be found. These destinations we call goals have been shown to be the #1 factor in predicting success.

Researchers have done longitudinal studies where they followed Harvard grads 10 and 20 years later. The biggest and really only predictor of success was whether the graduates had written down goals for themselves. While not every person who created goals was necessarily a shining success, pretty much all the success stories had written goals, and 100% of the biggest successes had written and continued to re-write goals for themselves on a consistent basis.

But there’s more to writing goals than scribbling, “1. Make a million dollars, 2. Quit smoking, 3. Be athletic, 4. Change the world.” on the back of a take-out menu. Here are some secrets that make goal-setting as powerful as possible.

Write Down Your Goals typed on a scrap of paper pinned to a cork notice board. Writing down goals helps to make them more real and will provide focus as you plan the steps to reach them.
Write Down Your Goals typed on a scrap of paper pinned to a cork notice board. Writing down goals helps to make them more real and will provide focus as you plan the steps to reach them.

WRITE SPECIFIC, MEASURABLE GOALS

First, write “Goals” and the date at the top of a page. You’re going to list 10 goals you want to reach. You’re going to write them:

Starting with the personal pronoun “I”. You are the only person in the Universe who can use that word in connection with yourself, and it ‘s the most potent way to express what you want and mean.

Write your goals in the positive, not the negative. Instead of writing, “I will quit smoking,” you’d write, “I am a healthy non-smoker.” Which reminds me, write them…

Using the present tense. Instead of saying, “I will make a million dollars” you’d say I have a million dollars in the bank” or “I am a millionaire.” Instead of saying, “I will lose 20 pounds you’d say, “I weigh 160 pounds.”

Wherever possible, attach a deadline or definite date, where viable. For example, you’d write, “I weigh 160 pounds on Christmas Eve, 2015.”

It can also be extra effective to attach emotions where you can. In other words, “I weigh 160 pounds on Christmas Eve, 2015, and I feel really energetic and sexy.”

 

        “Don’t edit yourself. 

 

PRIORITIZE, THEN STRATEGIZE

Take a look at your list of 10 goals. Pick 1 – 3 on which to focus. Let’s choose one for now. To help you decide, choose one that if it were to be realized in the next 24 hours it would have the biggest or most positive effect on your life. Circle that one.

Now, on another page, write that goal at the top, and list 20 ways you might reach or pursue that goal. The first 5 will be pretty easy. The next 5 get harder, and the final 10 is where it really gets interesting. Don’t edit yourself. For example, if this were a “I weigh 160 pounds” type thing, the first 5 might include joining Weight Watchers or taking up jogging. But soon a person will get to things like “Get up at 6am and walk to work,” “Sign up for kickboxing,” “Go vegan,” “Make all my lunches ahead of time and bring them to work,” “Take a cooking class,” or “Hike the Himalayas.”

Set the list aside and come back to it later. Among these 20 ideas will be one or more that really speak to you. It/they may not appear to be the best or most rational strategies for attacking your goal, but chances are this is what’s worth pursuing. Call it what you want, our gut or our heart or our soul, but whatever it is it’s almost always smarter about these things than our heads.

 

“Call it what you want, our gut or our heart or our soul, but whatever it is it’s almost always smarter about these things than our heads.”

 

NOW that you have some idea of what your head, heart, and maybe other body parts wants out of life, you can start to plot the course, plan your actions, and work on embodying the person best suited to getting you there.

Of course, one of the best things about all this is not the goal or destination, or even the journey. It’s about who you become along the way. And the best BEST part is that person you become…it’s who you really were all along!

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